Friday, September 4, 2015

The Deeper Lessons We Learn From Sharing

I don't know about you, but when I was growing up, we were taught that if you had a toy or item you were playing with and another kid wanted it, you relinquished it over to them so they could have a turn. I remember this pretty much sucked because usually I was enjoying playing with it tremendously and then had to lose that joy to hand it over. Then when I became a mother, I really had the belief that I HAD to teach my daughter to share no matter what. When you see sharing from a kid's point of view you realize that it's no wonder kids may resist sharing!

{Just imagine if as adults we were expected to take turns with our phones, cars or clothes! It's kind of ridiculous and funny when we think of it that way.}


You also want to teach your kids that it's important to learn how to take turns, to have patience, and to have coping skills and tools to negotiate the whole art of toy and cool stuff management. We also want to teach our kids that we can't always get what we want when we want it.

Certainly the old-school thinking isn't enough to actually teach kids all of that because you're just teaching them that they HAVE to take turns by handing the toy or coveted item over to someone else.

So how can we teach sharing with empathy, coping skills, and the art of negotiation?

Well, at least in my house it's a combination of communication, natural consequences (with a little chat after to explain why and how it happened), and parent-guided mediation between kids.

But sometimes the towel gets thrown in...

And the kids do fight sometimes...or other times what we've practiced seems to come through and I get to witness the miracle of them negotiating and being empathetic as they decide how to share.

One thing that has REALLY made a huge difference is to make clear that some toys are not for everyone to use, with these special permission is needed. At first this was hard for me because of my internalized beliefs around sharing (e.g. that everyone can have turns with anything). So I had a bit of guilt around this when I initially was introduced to the idea that kids don't ALWAYS have to share. That it's OK to have extended turns, to have special items that require permission from the owner to touch or use.

But it makes sense.

And Dr. Laura explains it so well in Chapter 6 of Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings. She even has scripts and examples of how to teach kids effective sharing.

The other great thing about this chapter is that it has a list of simple but effective sharing guidelines that will help kids understand sharing and feel good about it. I won't list them all, but my favourite ones are

"In our family the person using something can decide how long their turn lasts. At the playground we take shorter turns so everyone gets a turn."


"With visitors, we put away toys that are hard for us to share. When visitors are here, we take short turns, so everyone can enjoy playing in our home."

So once I let go of that guilt and that expectation that I was supposed to have kids who readily handed things over, I was able to see things from my kiddos' perspective, and I got to heal that inner child part of me that never got a chance to learn that.

The key here is to realize that teaching about sharing is only the surface lesson. The deeper, more important lesson, is to teach kids to see another person's perspective (empathy) so that sharing actually becomes an act of empathy, not just social norms or expectations. When kids learn this deeper lesson of empathy, they actually are MORE willing to share something, even special items they treasure, because they can relate and empathize with the kid they're sharing with. This teaches them that happiness can come from receiving, but is multiplied when we also get the chance to give. But the MOST important lesson they learn is empathy itself. So many problems in people's lives have to do with the lack of empathy, the lack of skills in communication that stem from not having received empathy ourselves or of not knowing how to have empathy for others. The more empathy we can teach kids, the more peaceful and stronger their relationships will be.

And I love seeing this happening in my kids. They are (usually) so happy to share, even special toys, with each other and when their friends come over to play. In fact, they usually send their friends home with a toy!

Another important lesson I wanted to teach my kids was not to become, for lack of a better way to say it, pushovers. When you expect kids to just hand stuff over, perhaps the underlying lesson we are teaching them is that their needs and point of view may not matter as much as meeting the expected social norm.

{This is something that I am STILL working on personally. I still get that tightness in my throat when I want to say something but hold it in because I erroneously feel I will be failing as a person or not meeting social expectations.}

So I wanted them to know how to express what their needs are, to stand up and stand strong, and how to communicate and effectively negotiate taking turns. And how to establish healthy boundaries and say "No thanks" when needed. Because, yeah at this age, it's just about toys...but when they are older these are skills that are going to be extremely necessary and very useful to have.

We're working on all this. Just as we make great strides forward, we seem to start from scratch again because we have four kids at different stages of development. We move forward with the older ones, then the little ones begin their learning journey from square one. But it is super cool to see my two older ones help the little ones by example or by actually helping them negotiate and communicate, I have hope that in the end I'll look back at this phase of my life and be glad I did it this way!

Friday, August 21, 2015

Time Is My Kryptonite For Peaceful Parenting

It's no secret that I've been loving Dr. Laura's new book Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings.

It's also no secret that I have four kids, run my own businesses and spend most of my time dealing with food, messes, and all the assorted issues associated with having kids.

So time is a luxury I often don't often have. I find myself staying up late most days to accomplish tasks that didn't get done during the day (like writing these posts!).

Parenting is a gig that you're in 24/7. Peaceful parenting even more so (in my opinion) because you just can't say I'll deal with it later or just separate everyone and send them to their rooms.


Well, because it doesn't really solve the issues and won't teach anyone anything beneficial.

In Chapter 5, Dr. Laura explains why when teaching children to resolve conflict, you just can't take any shortcuts.

So what's a busy parent to do? What about the times when ALL HELL breaks loose at the SAME time and you have a poopy diaper to change, children yelling and trying to hurt each other, supper on the stove, a 3 year old who is cutting her hair and you as the parent have to deal with it by keeping yourself calm and with empathy, compassion?

The truth is, it's really HARD.

But it's not impossible.

It does take practice and definitely some RE-TRAINING of our minds.

This Chapter, like Chapter 4, has scripts and scenarios to give you lots of tools and ideas to work through and implement.

But in addition to that, I'd like to share that it's not as easy as the scripts make it seem.

You WILL have to fail first before you succeed.

You WILL wish you could and most likely actually just quit and send the kids to their rooms or timeout.

You WILL loose your cool and yes, maybe even raise your voice.

But then...

You WILL realize you CAN do it differently.

And that's why Dr. Laura is so great. She has empathy not just for kids, but for parents too. She KNOWS it's so hard to do the whole peaceful parenting thing. But she also has a way to explain why it IS SO important to parent this way.

So just like I tell myself, hang in there. It is worth it in the long run. Take the time (again with the time thing!) to practice and practice the reels in your mind and change them to a more calm, less reactive version of Mama. And once you do, you'll realize it comes easier and doesn't require much for you to dissipate and resolve a situation.

So what did I find helpful?

Be aware and mindful of what your kids are doing, saying and feeling. Almost always an escalated situation could have been halted if a child had their needs met. Hunger, thirst, sleepiness...and all that, are major triggers. If you know your child is experiencing one of these primal states, you also know they won't have the patience or know-how to deal with the emotions that come when their little sister or brother ruin their game, take their toy or just say "the wrong thing". But here's the thing: if this happens and a primal need triggered a fight or argument, take a few moments after it's resolved to teach your kids WHY it happened. Explain to them that if they get too hungry, thirsty, etc...they will not have patience and get cranky. Once I began explaining this to my kids, they put the two together and now the older 2 are very good about taking care of their needs (mostly on their own, but sometimes they do ask me for help if it's something they can't do). I'm still holding out on the younger two...have a ways to go!

Go on YouTube and make a playlist of videos you wouldn't mind your kids videos, kid songs, funny animals, whatever! You can set the privacy setting to 'private' and then play it whenever you need a few minutes of quiet. Yeah, I know it's like using the Internet as a babysitter, but it works and it's not like they are watching unsupervised, commercial-full shows. If you have Netflix or some other streaming site, that works too. But I like the YouTube playlists because you can have variety and set it to however long you want. I especially do this during meal prep times or when I need to put the baby down for a nap.

Find shortcuts in your life that will make the times of day when things usually fall apart a bit easier. For example, is dinner time hell at your place too? For some reason that is the time everyone is tired, hungry, needs something ALL AT ONCE. And I'm trying to get supper ready and getting interrupted. So. I said enough is enough. Most days I'm on the ball and have supper planned and prepped WAY BEFORE dinnertime. That way I just have to take a few minutes to put the final touches together and this leaves me more time to be attentive or if the kids are having a good day, I can take a few minutes to chill out (happens once in a blue moon, but I'll take it). I know it's tricky when you work full time and are getting home late, or you have to take the kids to classes...but there are always ways to find shortcuts. Freezer meals, batch cooking, or making a healthy twenty minute supper (yes, it's possible!). Breakfast for supper is always a favourite at our place for a day when planning ahead didn't go so well. Get yourself on Pinterest or some other Internet sites, and look for recipes and ideas for healthy, easy meals.

And that leads me to my last point: kids are what they eat. Doesn't have much to do with actual 'time' but when we think about it it can save you a lot of meltdowns and free your day of unnecessary cranky times.  If they are not well fed, and I don't mean just 'not hungry', I mean fed foods that will nourish and fuel their little bodies and brains...they are going to show it in their behaviours. It's truly amazing, but not surprising, how the food we eat affects our mood, behaviour and of course our health. This applies even more so if a person is eating foods they are sensitive to but don't know it. If you notice your kid goes bonkers or their mood changes noticeably after eating a certain food, you may want to try eliminating it and see what happens. For example, my oldest doesn't do well with dairy. She's not allergic, but she definitely has some sort of reaction. She will get SO irritable and complains her head hurts. With my older son, it's wheat. He gets hyperactive and will also break out in eczema a couple days later. Of course we all know the classic sugar high. And that applies to all kids and even adults. I am definitely not one to always remember this food point. I love that I can just give them a granola bar when I'm busy with something. BUT I almost always pay the price later when they come down from their sugar high. I'm trying to make a point to batch bake my own granola bars, protein balls, and other healthy snacks from scratch so I know what's in them and can control the amounts of the usual suspect ingredients. However, this isn't always happening because I'm drowning in laundry or dishes or spilled water or some other mess. Maybe my fairy godmother will come and help? Nope. I just have to remember to delegate and maybe while the hubs folds the laundry I can whip something up. Or heck, maybe I should cut my Facebook time in half and use THAT time for a better purpose?

I don't have other time solutions right now, but if I think of any, I'll let you know. And if you have any, I'd love to hear about them.

Chapter 6 is next...see you then!



Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Theories On Toddlers

My toddler: he is cute, isn't he?
Why is it that my baby sniffs me out of the entire household of people...and almost always at very inopportune moments?

Why does he pull my hair and pinch me when I'm holding him?

Why does he refuse to play along at peek-a-boo, pat-a-cake or some other fun, silly game while I make a fool of myself trying to entertain him during a busy time or a grocery store trip or whatever thing I am doing that NEEDS to get done?

Why does he come find me when I'm trying to use the bathroom? How does he even know!?!?

Why does he go from happy-kid to most unhappy kid in a matter of seconds, when I'm making an important phone call or need to do something important?

Or he could be the happiest boy, playing and listening to his Daddy, and as soon as I come home or walk in from another room he changes into some version of toddler that I'm sure even Mary Poppins wouldn't enjoy.

Did I mention trying to use the bathroom? This kiddo has a knack for finding me in the middle of wiping! Which sucks because when he tantrums because I can't pick him and throws himself to the floor....well, I really CAN'T pick him! He then gets even more mad that he has to wait until I wash my hands. Oh my. Mornings at my house are fun.

But seriously, why does this happen?

I have a few theories...

Theory number 1:
(The one my husband uses to make me feel better)

He just loves me so much, he always wants to be near me.

OK, thanks kiddo, I love you too. But you don't have to turn into a complete little a-hole to tell me so. If you really love me, well, there are lots of other ways you could show me. The most important being not trying to climb on my lap while I'm trying to wipe my butt!

And wouldn't he love his Daddy just as much? He is an angel baby when Daddy is on duty. Why don't I get that toddler special treatment?

Theory number 2:

It's karmic payback for being rude, disobedient, rebellious and doing stupid stuff to my own mother.
Oh Karma, you really are a bitch. I get it now. Sorry for reals, Mama.

Theory number 3: 

It's a challenge, a test I need to pass in order to continue to be a VIP in the toddler's life. You know the whole we vent and show our true emotions with those we feel the most safe with? Maybe little toddler brains and hearts work the same? He trusts me so much (heck I grew him inside me!) that he knows he can be a little a-hole and if I continue to look after him after these episodes, I deserve and have earned the right to continue to be his Very Special Mama.

Theory number 4:

He has to mark his spot in the order of siblings. Being the smallest, he has to make the biggest impact.

This may hold true, except that I remember my first behaving similarly during her toddler years, not to the same degree, but still showing a-hole traits on a somewhat regular not sure if this theory holds true.

Theory number 5:

It's just part of being a toddler.

But that's not much fun. So I like the others a bit better ;-)

That's all I got. Have any to add?

All in all, whatever the reason or's tough to be a parent most times. I take the good with the not so good, and it helps to maintain the attitude of:

There's always chocolate (or wine, or whatever you enjoy!) at the end of the day when they're all asleep!

But seriously, I enjoy my littles, they really grow up too fast. And I remind myself that what I do today and the way I interact with them will pave the way for my tomorrow (ahem, I'm looking at you teenage years!). So I will look the toddler in the face and just say, "I love you and I embrace your tantrum because you're safe with me." 

The goal is to be a happier Mama...and just maybe get some good Karma in return (I probably have a big debt to pay after my teens).


Friday, August 7, 2015

The Phrase That Changed Our Game

This post is written as part of the Round Table Discussions with Natural Parent Network volunteers. In an effort to discuss, support, and promote a kinder, more gentle world, we are taking an in depth view of various books. Our current book is Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life by Dr. Laura Markham, author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. We hope you will join us with an open mind and a desire for change and growth.

Hello again! I'm back with my thoughts on Chapter 4 of Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham.

This Chapter provides scripts, tools and tips on exactly how to do emotions coaching AND what to say. Which is great because I can attest to what it's like to have your brain go blank as your kids are crying or arguing on who gets to pick what show to watch. Or whatever conflict situation is escalating in your kiddo-land.

I re-read this Chapter because I wanted to really soak in the scripts and imagine myself actually saying the words.

But as I read and read, one thing popped out at me over and over.

The idea of teaching your kids that the situation of conflict they are having with each other is a problem, but it is not an emergency...and most importantly, that it CAN be solved.


I admit that I had never before thought of things this way.

Not because I thought the conflict of kids IS an emergency, but because I don't think I had really seen it that way, from their perspective. And of course to kids, their tower getting knocked over, their lego getting broken apart, losing their favourite stuffie, or having their baby brother pull their hair IS AN EMERGENCY.

Dr. Laura explains that in order to effectively emotion coach our children we need to stay calm, model the behaviour and teach them that we empathize with them. We know it sucks. But that it is not an emergency and that they can solve it (with our help if needed).

It's awesome because I've been going around saying, "Remember, this is not an emergency, I know it feels very awful, but there is a way to solve this problem." And variations of this.

And the cute and hilarious thing is that now I hear my 3 year old going around saying this message too. I don't know if she gets it fully yet, as she still screams bloody murder for the slightest thing, but at least it's beginning. The seed has been planted!

I've been enlightened with this phrase for 4 days now. I see it making a HUGE difference. The kids calm down faster, probably because I am calm too. But it really has helped them (especially the older 2) to put things in perspective and I notice it puts their mind into problem-solving mode vs. react mode. Which is definitely easier and less loud for me.

And I've adopted it too for my internal self-talk:

"Kat, the sink is full of dishes? No one has tidied their laundry off the floor? You still have loads and loads of laundry to fold and you're exhausted? Remember, it is not an emergency. Stay calm, chill out, find a way to solve it."

I am LOVING this new phrase. It is SO zen.

<3 Kat

Monday, August 3, 2015

I Heart Norwex

So bear with me as I share with you what I'm up to these days!

This past month I became an independent sales consultant for Norwex. This means I am able to sell Norwex products, offer my customers private specials and discounts, hold demo parties either in client's homes or my own and most importantly (and they WHY of why I chose to join Norwex) to help spread Norwex's mission of: "Improving Quality of Life by Radically Reducing Chemicals in Our Homes." 

We are living in a chemical soup, from our food to our air, but interestingly, air pollution and quality is often much worse INDOORS. The products we use, including care products and cleaning products, all produce VOCs into the air we breathe...and depending on how toxic they are, can sometimes linger for weeks to months. These chemicals can cause breathing problems, skin irritations, and other health problems. Almost all of them come with warning labels to use in well-ventilated areas, to not get on skin, etc., etc. How many of us actually read and follow those instructions? I know I didn’t really, because you get used to it or you excuse it away as we don’t see IMMEDIATE problems. But, do we really know the long-term impacts of using these products? (1)

If we want to help our children and ourselves have less risk of health problems from these harmful chemicals we need to look at what we are using in our homes. When it came to cleaning, I used to think ‘the stronger the better' to kill germs...but over the last few years I've become educated on this and have learned healthier ways to clean. But it came at the price of not being super effective and/or of me having to spend a lot of time and effort on making my own cleaning products or scrubbing away at something forever.

That is why this past April, when I visited a dear friend of mine, my life changed. She introduced me to Norwex. When we had our first babies back in 2006, we both began a "greener living" journey to reduce the impact on our new babies and ourselves. But we both had found that it was so stressful and time consuming to have to clean our homes with products that were more expensive than the mainstream cleaners AND that didn't work well at all! So over the years we kind of went back and forth between stuff and now, she seemed to have finally found something that really made a difference.

She did a demo for me with an envirocloth and some descaler in the bathroom and…voila! Within a few minutes water spots and soap scum were gone and all without the use of harsh chemicals. I was intrigued. She gifted me a Window cloth and told me to find a consultant in my area so I could host a party. I was excited to try out the Window cloth...and I actually found it worked so well for more than just cleaning smudges off windows. I cleaned my fridge glass shelves with it in about half the time it would have taken me to do it my regular way. I cleaned mirrors in the bathroom in no time at all. I even cleaned and brought sparkle to my water stained cutlery. I thought, "all this with just a cloth? Imagine what the rest of the Norwex line could do for me?" I had hesitated to book a party, but at the Fredericton Woman's Show I attended, I met Shanie, a local consultant and I took the plunge and booked a party with her.

In the days leading up to the party, I did more research on Norwex and their products. And I got more excited. Although the turnout wasn't ideal (3 of my good friends came, one of them who also became a Norwex consultant after attending my party, and I get to be on her awesome team!), Shanie did a great party and wowed us with all the cool things envirocloths, cleaning paste, mops, bathroom and kitchen cleaners and much more could do! I bought a whole bunch of product and it was like my birthday when it arrived! And because I was the hostess and my party reached the minimum requirement, I got a load of free stuff, which made my loot even more exciting!

I've always tended to love cleaning. It relaxes me. It gives me a sense of accomplishment. But it was still annoying because it took time.

Now, even though yes, it takes time, it doesn’t take AS long. It has cut my cleaning time by about half. I've done the math and compared my before and after and I have to say I’m impressed.

For example, I cleaned our new house before moving in from top to bottom with just envirocloths, water and a bit of the Blue Diamond cleaning spray.

Here are some pictures of the fridge left behind by the previous owners! Thick dust on top and sides and back. Plus, there was a grimey, greasy buildup on the floor that was covered in pet hair and goodness knows what else!

For an experiment, t first I applied Vim to half the floor mess and let it soak for about 5 minutes and it did NOTHING. Just as grimey and sticky. Then I applied a few sprays of my diluted Blue Diamond Cleaner and let it sit for 5 minutes, meanwhile I dusted the top and sides. The floor grime came up so easily and smoothly with the wet (with water) envirocloth. The dust on the top and sides came off easily with the wet envirocloth (it got stuck to it and didn't spread or smear).

Mopping my floors with my steam mop used to take me just about 60 minutes...this was my upper and main level hardwood floors. Plus, the mop would always leave streaks. I tolerated these simply because I knew my floors were clean and sanitized...and I thought I HAD no other choice. Sometimes if I had time I would go over the streaks with a dry cloth. But that annoyed me and took more of my time. But now, with my Norwex mop, I mop the floors in 32 minutes and leave NO streaks. In fact, when I walk on the freshly cleaned floors I can FEEL the clean on my feet (I have super sensitive feet that sense the tiniest crumb). They feel smooth and squeaky-clean. That's because all Norwex microfiber products pick up particles that are 1/200th the size of a hair follicle! So yeah, that's clean. 

And what’s even better is that after the microfiber has picked up all that “stuff” it self cleans! Norwex cloths have silver woven into them, which naturally stops the growth of yucky stuff to keep it fresh and clean. So when you reach for it the next time you know you are not going to be spreading and smearing germies everywhere. And you can say goodbye to that awful “wet cloth” smell. Which means less laundry for you!

The other important thing I’ve noticed is that my hands are no longer cracked and dry. Ever since I stopped using those other cleaning products and wipes, I’ve noticed a HUGE difference in the quality of my skin.

{And a story for another post, but Norwex also has a body care product line, which includes body microfiber cloths, bath towels, and they also have a line of products designed to be used by kids but that are just as effective}

I can go on with examples of how cleaning is more effective and safer with Norwex but I it would take me all night to write! So if you want more stories just send me a message :-)

Since welcoming Norwex into my home, my cleaning life has not been the same. At first, I simply enjoyed the products and loved seeing more and more results. But after a while I began to get more excited about the possibility of helping spread the Norwex love to more and more homes. That is how my journey as a consultant began.

Me and my mop, envirowand, blue diamond concentrated cleaner,
and pink, blue, yellow envirocloths <3

And so I want to tell you:

You deserve to not have to spend so much of your free time cleaning. You deserve to have a home that is free from harmful chemicals and substances. You deserve to not have to wear gloves and hold your breath when you're cleaning your toilet! And, you deserve to have your children learn and help you clean knowing that what they are using will do a GOOD job AND not harm them. If you agree, then let me know and I can tell you more about how to make YOUR home a safer haven! I am very excited and passionate about sharing this with you, and I hope you are too! 

Thanks for reading! If you're interested in learning more check out or send me an email.

<3 Kat

[1] (1998). Wolkoff and colleagues, Risk in Cleaning, The Science of The Total Environment, 215, p. 135-56.

Friday, July 24, 2015

Do Your Kids Get Along?

This post is written as part of the Round Table Discussions with Natural Parent Network volunteers. In an effort to discuss, support, and promote a kinder, more gentle world, we are taking an in depth view of various books. Our current book is Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life by Dr. Laura Markham, author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. We hope you will join us with an open mind and a desire for change and growth.

One question I get asked A LOT is, "Do your kids get along?" or some variation of that.

If I'm having a conversation with someone, I explain that yes, they get along, mostly. There are times they have arguments and yes, even fights. 

But what I've observed over the years of being a Mama to multiple kiddos is that sibling rivalry and fighting has not been (blessedly) a major concern in our family.

There was that period of a few months after Kitty Girl was born when Sharky Boy had a rough time adjusting. But we were prepared as we had anticipated that (yay for reading and learning how to help support him ahead of time!). It was still really, really hard (especially for me as I was home alone with the kids 90% of the time). We did a lot of tips from Hand in Hand Parenting {and actually they are also tips Dr. Laura suggests in Chapter Two to help connect with your child and to help them release emotional baggage}. These things helped him tremendously and he was able to get through that time and in the end he and her have a really close bond {they actually all do}.

So back to what I was saying, rivalry and fighting, while they do happen occasionally, is not something I sit up worrying about at night {I have plenty on that list already!}.

I think the reason the MomeeeZen kids get along is because I got lucky!

Haha! I would like to analyze and maybe have a therapist tell me why!

All kidding aside, I think, especially after reading Chapter Three, I really do believe it is because we made it very clear and an important part of introducing every new baby that the older kids were NOT being replaced, that we still loved them all and valued them, and wanted to spend time with them.

As Dr. Laura says, "Research shows that if you have a positive relationship with each of your children, they're much more likely to have a positive relationship with each other."

The early months and years of each of my kiddo's lives were very involved. I remember thinking I would never be "free" again! We follow attachment parenting ideas mostly, because we wanted and prioritized building strong bonds and attachments with each of our kids. Back then I had an idea of how important it was...but now that my kids are getting older, I really do SEE the benefits of all that work I (we) put in, and I'm so glad I (we) did! I hope if any new or about-to-be parents are reading this, they feel encouraged to stick it through and hang in there. It will be worth it in the end when you witness the beautiful bonds, games, gestures of kindness and generosity the kids show towards each other. And all this despite my tendency to be a yeller at my breaking point (remember this post!? Happy to say I'm making great progress!)

And if you are looking for change in the way you've been doing things, don't worry, the good news is that it IS possible to build a positive relationship with your child starting NOW. Check out Dr. Laura's website for awesomely helpful info.

See you next week for Chapter Four <3